This is an article I wrote for my university’s newspaper, The Pauw Wow, for the Valentine’s Day edition. It’s just simple advice as to how to deal with being single on Valentine’s Day. I figured it would make for a good post on here:
All My Single Ladies!…And Gentlemen
Are you one of those people who dread the sight of all the pink hearts, giant teddy bears, and copious amounts of chocolate around this time of year? Does being single on Valentine’s Day put a damper on your day? If that’s the case, leave the chick flicks and boxes of Kleenex behind, because there are plenty of things to remind yourself of and to do on February 14th.
First of all, Valentine’s Day is just that. It’s a day; one out of 365 this year, just like every other year (aside from leap years, of course). There’s no reason to focus on the fact that everyone says it’s a day for couples to flaunt how in love they are with flowers and giant teddy bears. If you’re single on Valentine’s Day, the last thing you should be doing is feeling sorry for yourself! It’s just like any other day, so get up, get out there and do you, girl(or guy)!
Next, you may find yourself in a situation where most of your friends are in relationships, and you’re single. This one can be tough, because you want to be happy for your friends, but at the same time, don’t lie…you want that box of Godiva chocolate covered strawberries. And that’s okay! It’s natural to feel a little jealous. In this case, my suggestion would be to let your friends have their day. That makes it easier to focus on you. Show yourself a little love by going out to the mall and treating yourself a bit. Maybe go to the salon, get your nails done, spend that extra bit of money on that dress you’ve been eyeing lately. Guys, I’m not too sure what you do to treat yourselves, but I’m assuming it has something to do with sports or your other guy friends…so go do that.
This year, Valentine’s Day falls on a Friday. Who wants to stay in on a Friday night?! Get yourself all dolled up, call up your other single friends, and have a night out with your friends. Hoboken and New York City are all minutes away and always have things going on Friday nights. There’s no reason why you should be sitting in bed watching romantic comedies on Netflix alone(unless that’s your thing!)! Grab your girls, grab your guys, and have fun. Chances are there will be plenty of other single people out and about, so who knows. You could end up meeting someone. If going out isn’t exactly your thing, have your friends all come over and hang out in your dorm room or apartment, pop in a movie, grab some popcorn and a box of wine (only if you’re of age, of course) and relax with your friends.
No one says that Valentine’s Day should make those of us who are single feel bad about ourselves. Yes, it can be difficult when you’re seeing so many couples getting mush on each other with gifts and public displays of affection all day, but who’s to say that that won’t be you in the near future?! Don’t ever allow yourself to think that just because you’re single on Valentine’s Day, you’ll be forever alone. I can guarantee you that is not the case. Just go about it as if it were any other day, hang out with your other single friends, and love the person that deserves it most: yourself!